In fact, according to a Match. We asked men and women in their 60s and above what they wish they had known about sex when they were in their 20s. Figure out what makes you feel sexy and run with it. Mine is my gold waist chain and no panties. Oops, guess the secret is out. Figure out what you want in bed and ask for it. Mindreading is vastly overrated! When I was in my 20s, I thought that sex-as-sex mattered more than it does; that the health of a love relationship rose and fell with the intensity quality of each erotic encounter.
A True Story 5. The right partner will be invested in satisfying your needs. In my 60s I know that is absolutely backward thinking. You are not with the right partner if they are not equally invested in satisfying your physical, emotional and spiritual needs.
Get out of your head so you can get into your body. Know that your sexuality will evolve over time. The best insurance for great sex later in life is opening our minds and expanding our notion of what great sex is.
Explore, experiment, keep an open mind, try to express yourself sexually with a defined end goal. Good sex is less about your appearance and more about the energy and confidence you bring to the bedroom.
Instead, focus on how things feel and what you want to feel. Give in to feeling sensations and desire, and let your energy take over. Once you master this, sex will never be the same. Stop playing the shame game so you can embrace your desires. The older you get, the more you realize just how much shame you carry within you and how much self-consciousness, prudishness and judgment limit your ability to enjoy sex.
You can be both a devil and angel in bed, Dr. Casual sex can be fun, but a shared emotional connection can really take things up a notch. When you are in love and making love, it transcends the physical connection into a soul connection.