In both cases, this may be due to the allure of the possibilities that come with mixing ages, interests and backgrounds. Until the last decade, there have been far less female CEOs or women in high-level managerial positions. What is also powerfully influential are the ever increasing and empowering lead roles created for women in movies, on TV, and through infinite social media forums.
Because many women work full-time and raise families it enables men who have grown up with this norm to feel less threatened by female success. How to be the approachable older woman You may struggle with balancing your work identity and your single woman savvy self. With less gender-specific stereotypes, a younger man might appreciate a woman with a little more life experience by the mere fact that you have been alive longer.
Use this to your advantage. You want to be appreciated, adored, cherished, and not experienced as threatening or placed in the role of being a parent in a romantic relationship. Do I look too old? Find comfort and confidence in the fact that he is interested in you, or you would not be having this conversation in your head! Once you have established common ground — you both have mutual interest — soften your approach with him sometimes.
Let him take the lead in planning dates sometimes. Encourage him to share his dreams and passions with you, even if he is still developing his career. When it comes to intimacy, take a moment to assess your chemistry and see how you both interact alone. If he likes to dominate here, let him show you how he can cherish and please you.
In time, one would hope things progress to a point where you forget you have any years on him at all, and he is merely your boyfriend, lover and partner. How to be taken seriously as the confident younger man If you are the younger man choosing to date an older woman, you may be interested in her because you are not threatened by a savvy woman with stories and life experience, and you already regard women as powerful not necessarily stronger than you, but not necessarily less than you either.
There is openness and excitement with what an older woman can bring to your relationship — romantically, sexually, emotionally. The whole package comes with seasoning and maturity and those are qualities in women that you are drawn to. Younger men can find these qualities provocative and exciting — not threatening, but challenging. To show your best qualities as a man, and to be taken seriously in the dating pool, compliment your female partner when she discusses her success in her career. This helps to break down the barriers that may exist if you are both at different points in your careers and life.
You would not be spending time pursuing older women if you felt threatened or were experiencing reverse age- stereotyping. Remember that no matter their success in the outside world, most every woman, and person, wishes to feel adored and appreciated. Demonstrate your interest by planning creative dates and offering compelling and interesting conversation.
You are an equal in her mind, so remember this and exude confidence with her. If you are tired of dating in your own age pool because maybe those women are immature, or not ready to commit to something more than casual come and go relationships, honor the woman you are with by verbalizing what she means to you and letting her know without question what you bring to the table. Eventually, you both can come up with joint interests and goals as a partnership, and the age question will melt away into a distant memory.
You will just be a twosome and hopefully, your differences in age will not affect any aspect of your experience. When an older woman dates a younger man, it may be easier for both to find the emotionally rewarding experience they are looking for.