This proverb sums up the dating culture of most of the Zezuru, Korekore, Karanga and Manyika people in Zimbabwe at least in the 90s and before who would only marry from within their tribes and boundaries. Dating was never casual. There is a new dating trend which is fast developing in the country. In recent years with the advent of new technological gadgets like smartphones and laptops, there is a new dating trend which is fast developing in the country: As of , out of the million people in Zimbabwe, about 5.
Sites like Metrodate, Topface, DatingBuzz and Evening Touch, to mention just a few are helping boys, girls, men and women find dates. Screen Shot at I caught up with one female participant who goes by the user name, Gracy, on one of the sites. One 30 year old, Tendai, feels the same way as Gracy. He says his accounting job has robbed his social life as he is always working. He says these dating sites are a way of refreshing his mind from work.
Her desire to meet new people has pushed her to join dating sites. On the other hand, one year-old Gideon Madzikatidze, says he joined EveningTouch just to have fun. He never thought he would find the love of his life, Aisha.
I then interviewed a couple people and most of their stories were shocking. Digging deep into the subject I realised that a lot of people who have used these sites always have interesting stories from their encounters. I then interviewed a couple people and most of their stories were shocking to say the least: It turned out the only two things she could talk about were Sungura music and her sexual obsessions how she wants rough sex and how she prefers it in the kitchen.
I remember excusing myself as if I wanted to use the bathroom and never came back. She always refused to come to until I finally convinced her and we met at a lodge in Arcadia, Harare. A few days later I noticed some pimples on my private parts. I had contracted an STI. We agreed to meet in town; I arrived on the date, all excited, but realised that the girl who sat was a 30 year old lady.
She is a mother of one and was just finding an excuse to find adventure with young boys. He was very sweet and seemed caring as we chatted online. On my arrival, I realised he was home alone. As we talked, one thing led to the other and started kissing. The next thing he was trying to get into my pants and I refused until he pinned me down and tried to rape me. Thanks to his friend who came knocking. I never talked to him ever since. We spoke a bit and decided to meet up. While at Beer Engine, a bar located in the heart of Harare, we had a few drinks bought her ciders and she revealed how she was a university student living in the university residents and had overspent all her money and was bankrupt.
Afterwards she blocked me.